Music Tips For a Small Wedding

Should you have music at a very small, intimate church wedding ceremony?

Many couples planning a small wedding will choose to have no music at all. I can understand that, but it’s a shame.

Music is such a powerful way of expressing emotion. Your joy is no less just because the ceremony is small. I think you’d be losing something by foregoing music just because of the size of the wedding.

So how to best have music for small weddings?

Two tips

There are two things you need to do to have effective, special and memorable music at a small wedding:

Create a more intimate sound:

Use less music. But use it in the right places!

Tips for a more intimate sound:

There are several ways to create a more intimate sound.

Get close to your musician (or get the musician close to you)
A piano might be just what you need
A piano is a wonderfully intimate instrument. If there’s a piano available (whether in the chapel or in the main part of the church), especially a grand or “baby grand”, consider using it as the primary instrument.

The organ can work too
The organ, whether in the chapel or in the main part of the church, can still be used to great effect. The trick is to use it correctly.

A loudly-played organ may sound irritating with only a few guests present, so the organ’s softer stops must be used. A softly-played organ can sound wonderful!

A skilled organist will be able to use the quieter stops effectively to achieve this wonderful sound. But watch out for less-skilled organists that turn quiet music into something bland and uninteresting.

Don’t shy away from other instruments
Solo instruments, such as flutes, violins, cellos or harps can help achieve intimacy. Such instruments can easily be used as the only instrument or can could be used with a piano (or nearby organ).

Even a singer can work well. Just be sure your singer (particularly amateur singers) are comfortable singing in front of a very small group.

Tips for less music

The second thing you will want in a small wedding is to go easy on the music. That means using it where it will contribute and no more than that. Too much of it for a small ceremony can destroy the intimacy!

Suggestions for getting the right amount of music:

Use very little music before the ceremony.
For a small number of guests, there simply is no reason to have lots of music beforehand. A very intimate performance (for example, a solo piano or violin playing nearby the guests’ seating) could allow you to get away with slightly more music. But do focus on keeping it short.

Avoid a separate bridal processional.
A smaller ceremony usually also means a smaller wedding party. Especially if held in a chapel, there won’t be enough time to get through two pieces of music let alone one. Cutting two pieces short will be more awkward than cutting one piece short.

So keep it simple and just use one piece for the wedding party and the bride’s entrance.

Skip the postlude entirely and perhaps also the recessional.
Your guests will be able to exit very quickly, so a postlude won’t be necessary. It won’t take the wedding party long either, so the guests could start leaving during the recessional (after the wedding party has exited).

A small, intimate wedding can be a lot less stressful and should be every bit as joyful as a larger wedding. Music is one of the best ways to express this emotion and done right, will make a wedding of any size extra special.

Top 10 Wedding Planning Tips You Must Read

Planning your wedding can be one of the most exciting and rewarding things that you will ever do in your lifetime, however it can also be extremely stressful! Studies show that staying organized reduces stress by up to fifty percent! Who can argue with these numbers? The key to success is to stay organized and keeping your eye on the prize. Below are tips to help you stay organized while planning your special day.

1. Timing is everything: begin planning as early as possible so that you can prioritize the tasks that are important at a specific time. Concentrating on all aspects of an event during the same time can make your head feel like it wants to explode!

2. Visualize the end result: When trying to plan the perfect event the first step is to just sit back and think about the type of an event that you are trying to create. Brainstorming sessions are one of the best ways to get an authentic idea of the type of wedding that you would want to create.

3. Watch your budget: remember that pulling off an amazing event with unlimited resources is easy. Pulling of an amazing event with limited resources requires one to use creativity. So, put on your thinking cap, create a reasonable budget and get creative.

4. Know your vendors and/or service providers: One of the best tips to staying organized is working with professionals who are also organized. Avoid unpleasant surprises on your wedding day by selecting only the best providers. The truth is, no one is immune to last minute surprises even if you work with the best, however, by working with professionals you have a better chance of diminishing the chances.

5. Secure vendor deliverables by signing a contract! Service providers within the event production field are typically creative individuals. Creativity can lead to lots of exciting brainstorming ideas that if not secured by a legal piece paper such as a contact, might not be realistic expectations in terms of being delivered.

6. Tip on hiring friends to help: When hiring friends to help out as part of your creative approach to do a grand wedding using a modest budget strategy, try to still pay them a small amount for their services. The reason is, when people are compensated for services even a small amount makes them feel a greater sense of responsibility and urgency to deliver the best of the best because they are in the mindset of being paid for performance.

7. Pursue a positive attitude: You will be making lots of decisions and the best way to keep you on track is to make them in a calm state of mind. The wedding planning process can be quite stressful. It might even cause you and your groom to argue over petty things. Take a deep breath and approach things calmly and rationally.

8. Compromise: Contrary to many wedding planning reality shows that you might see on television nowadays, you, your groom, and families should enjoy the wedding planning process. Be open to suggestions. It is important for you to understand that although it is your wedding date others are also excited about it and will want to participate. You can either fight it or understand it and be wise. If you disagree with recommendations from family members, speak about it calmly until an understanding is reached. Thank the person giving the advice kindly, advise them that you will absolutely consider it and then make the final decision based on what works for your wedding theme.

9. Confirm and Follow-up. Make sure that as the date gets closer you do a follow up with your service providers such as the band, photographer, florist and videographer to confirm your arrangements and review the contracts.

10. Relax and enjoy! Take all the planning as a challenge. Enjoy every part of it despite of all the stress that it might give you. Be confident that if something goes wrong you will be more than able to figure out a solution.

Planning a wedding is not easy. It requires a lot of time and energy but by staying organized and positive you will have a much better chance of achieving the wedding that you’ve been dreamed of.

Reasons Why You Need to Have a Wedding Planning Checklist

Planning for your wedding can be very challenging. Even if you hire a wedding coordinator, you need to have time and you also have to be hands-on especially when you want your wedding to be close to perfect. It has been said that no wedding is free from flaws because the tiniest of details unattended can become a problem. This is the major reason why you need to have a wedding planning checklist.

Sure it’s okay that you’ll hire someone and pay him/her to tackle all the details and issues; but many couples have made this costly mistake of leaving all the work to the coordinator. Not that the coordinator cannot handle it or that he/she cannot be trusted; it’s just that it’s not reason enough to let someone handle everything.

It is ideal that you and your wedding coordinator have each a copy of your wedding checklist where you can tally each month or every 2 weeks as things progress. Yes, it is tedious and it could bring stress once in a while, but you’ve got to be always on top of the situation because it is your wedding. You need to have an understanding with your coordinator regarding the updates and tallying of details in order to ensure that every bit of detail, big or small, is being tackled and accomplished as needed.

For the most parts, the main details such as the reservations of the venue for the ceremony [church or chapel or a particular venue] and reception, wedding gown and accessories [includes motif, design, where to buy, etc.], catering, budgeting, guest list, invitations, flowers, entourage, bridal car and salon services are always on the top of the list. Minor details such as wedding registry, gifts for the groomsmen and bridesmaids, name cards for the tables, wedding favors, thank you cards and many other small details come next.

It is easier to have a wedding planning checklist because you’ll be able to track everything, check which is missing from the list and forecast your budget. A wedding is huge investment and every penny counts, so a checklist also provides you a clear picture of how much you will need, how much you can save and how much you need to add if you were able to save for the honeymoon.

A Smart Tip

Here’s a great idea even before you contact a wedding coordinator. You can create an initial wedding planning checklist during the initial planning stage with your future husband and your family. Ask them to pitch in with the ideas as well as with the canvassing of the major necessities [reservations, catering, flower arrangements, salon, etc.]. You can also do some research on the internet just to get an idea of the pricing as well as the possible needs that you may have not yet tackled.

From your accomplished initial checklist, you’ll have an idea of how much work should be done and how much money you will need. Just in case you’re able to figure out the costing and everything you need for your wedding, you can then decide if hiring a wedding coordinator is still necessary.

This tip is ideal for those who are really tight on their budgets because hiring a wedding coordinator will really cost you a lot. But hey, if you have the means, no one’s stopping you. The idea is to be prepared and organized so you’ll be stress-free on your wedding.